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10 Reminders For The New Year

Today is my first day back at the office, kicking my work year off to a [slow] start.

This time last year I had a post ready and rearing to go before the dust settled from the landing into the New Year, this year however, I took being on holiday very seriously and chose to enjoy the downtime, right to the very last minute.

With all the reflecting that was done as 2015 drew to an end I did a lot of reflecting (as most people do), not only on the year that had passed, but also all that’s happened in the couple of years that has lead up to me being where I am; and am excited to see what God has on the cards for me this year.

Here are a few lessons learnt, that became quite prevalent last year that I need to keep in mind going forward:

Success is subjective. Success means achieving the goals and objectives that you have set out for yourself, based on your unique life lessons, encounters & experiences and can therefore not be compared to someone else’s.

Life never goes as planned, so don’t waste your time fretting about the future. Life will not always work out exactly as you planned and the sooner you accept that, the better. Nothing in life is permanent and that makes life exciting. Embrace change and enjoy the journey that is called life.

Keep your mind open to different people/cultures. Traveling has taught me to leave my assumptions about people of other cultures behind & opt to rather learn from them. Don’t assume that your way is the only/right way or that you know everything.

There’s nothing a good cup of tea can’t fix.

Lazy days are just as important as productive days. Be sure to take a day for yourself every now & then, not only for rest and relaxation, but also to reflect.

The greatest prison that people live in is the fear of what other people think. Caring too much about what people may say or think if you do something can keep you in the same old rut, unable to move forward and to live the life you truly want to live. What you think of yourself is much more important than what others think of you.

Don’t let your losses keep you back from new gains. Don’t be too hard on yourself, mistakes happen and sometimes things just don’t work out the way you may have wanted, or hoped, but you need to just keep going and try to be open to what comes your way.

Fall in love with someone who never lets you fall asleep thinking you’re unwanted. Someone who will be there for you, appreciate you, and never take you for granted.

Do not compromise who you are to impress someone else. 

Always be a little kinder than necessary. Kindness is contagious; make sure you sprinkle it everywhere you go because you don’t know what someone else is going through.


Only shared ten above, but trust me when I say there were more; and I am sure this year will bring so many more.



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Through Shaded Eyes (TSE) is the brainchild of Tokelo Motsepe. A retail buyer and digital strategist with an addiction to blogging, this blog is a platform for my style, life and love for fashion to be shared. What started as an escape from the hustle and bustle of the world, has now become a place to let out my passion for fashion & writing, in-between time spent at work, traveling, or doing everything else life throws at me… it has become a form of expression and I hope it can inspire and encourage you to also share!

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  1. Bene Bakes says

    Loved this post, so succinct and I found myself nodding along to many points. Particularly “The greatest prison that people live in is the fear of what other people think.”

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